We’ve all been through it: you have a bad day at work, or you feel a little bad, maybe you have a disagreement with a friend, or you just woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Everyone has bad days. When your partner is the one feeling depressed, it can be difficult to watch them have a difficult time. While it’s not always possible to de-stress someone else, there are little ways to help! If you are trying to find ways to cheer up your partner, you have come to the right place.
My own immediate impulse is usually to try to make my partner feel better. Sometimes this can backfire. When our loved ones are having a bad day or stressed, they often just need a little space to unzip and figure it out on their own. Meanwhile, finding small, meaningful ways to cheer up your partner can make all the difference.
And don’t think that the only way to cheer up your partner is by spending money. Sure, gifts are great and always appreciated, but often what helps the most is quality time, helping them feel loved, fun distractions, and of course their favorite foods.
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Put a little love note in your purse. It can be a few words of affirmations, a poem to remind you of them, or a few words to let her know that you are thinking about them throughout the day.
Make them a playlist of songs that remind you of each other. Just because we’re no longer making mixed CDs with each other doesn’t mean we can’t share a playlist. Keep it private on Spotify to make it your special little secret.
Congratulate them. Tell them they’re hot, even when they’re only in their pajamas, or how smart they are when they’ve had trouble at work. A serious and unexpected compliment always makes everyone’s day!
Send an unexpected sexy photo of yourself. As long as a precedent has been set and you know this is something they are fine with, a little photo at noon will definitely brighten their day.
Do a task that you don’t like to do. Everyone has that task on their list that they absolutely abhor: personally, washing dishes feels like a personal attack every night. Quietly remove it from your plate by doing it yourself.
Surprise them with a new plans. Yes, receiving flowers is always a sweet romantic gift, but a new one plans lasts much longer (often cheaper) and is a lovely reminder of a tender moment of goodness.
Give them an extra long hug. Few things feel as loving as receiving a long, unexpected hug. Give them a good squeeze to remind them that you are there for them no matter what.
Write them a silly haiku. Even if you don’t consider yourself the most proficient word maker in the world, anyone can make sweetly fun haiku. It will make their day to know that you took the time to put the pen on the paper.
Text them a cute photo of the two of you from the beginning of your relationship. It’s a good reminder of how far you’ve come!
Let them choose the next series to watch them in excess. Do you need to take out the big guns? Commit to letting them take the reins when it’s time to choose your next Netflix binge.
Bring them coffee to bed. There are few things sweeter than opening one eye and having your hot coffee ready to go on the nightstand. Even a few more comfortable minutes in bed can make you feel more loved.
Make a reservation at your favorite restaurant. Not only does it show that you pay attention to the things they love, but it’s something they look forward to and a good way to stop thinking about their problems.
Surprise them with their favorite dessert. Whether they have a beloved pastry or are obsessed with a snack that only you can make, going to work, or hanging out with their favorite candy is sure to make them happy right away.
Offer an unsolicited massage. We put a lot of stress on our bodies, especially after long days hunched over in front of a computer. Even a ten minute shoulder or foot massage can help relieve tension, stress, and the physical manifestations of anxiety.
Suggest a night walk in your favorite neighborhood. Leave the phones at home and make sure you can connect and talk about any issues they have.
Get them a relaxing face mask. Put it in the refrigerator to make it more refreshing when they use it. Add a little Enya to the mix and maybe even rub a little into your scalp while on your face for some serious relaxation.
Draw a bath by candlelight. Bonus points if a glass of wine awaits them too.
Surprise them with an impromptu home movie night. Pick your favorite movie, have some popcorn ready to go, and order the most delicious pizza in town for a relaxing evening.
Enroll them in an exercise class they love and join! Whether virtual or IRL, it will be a fun way to do something together and stop thinking about your problems.
Dance Put on some serious dance tunes and shake them all up. I am a supporter of ABBA for its serious feel-good dance vibes.
Choose a new board game or puzzle. Take it out after dinner for some screen-free bonding time.
Plan your next trip. Even if it’s an imaginary one, for now, daydream together about your fantasy travels.